Smell awesome even at the gym.

25 Nov

Balla Body Spray
Axe your overpowering, obnoxious and offensive body spray you’ve got as a Christmas gift last year that you’ve yet to use up!

Let’s face it, male body sprays are nauseating and not in the good maxing out on the leg press during leg day nauseating. I understand why some guys prefer body spray; it’s less expensive than cologne, can be applied all over the body and more in quantity.

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That’s why I was excited when Balla for men sent me their latest scent to try. I am all about developing a signature scent. Having a signature scent will guarantee no one forgetting you. They say “outta sight out of mind” but we all know the number one memory provoking factor is smell. So if you have a signature scent it’s in their sheets, car and memory bank. Try forgetting me now!

I had already prejudge the Balla’s fragrance just based on the fact that I’m not a teenage boy. However, this scent is all man but don’t John Deer man. Balla body spray isn’t musky, full of some type of tree bark and definitely not soft like a lady.

I was wow’d at how refreshing the fragrance is without being the stereotypical man scent of pine, sandalwood or cedar and frankincense. It has a powder aspect to it that actually plays with your natural body chemistry.

I use it after a midday workout when I didn’t want to smell dull nor reapply my regular cologne, on my gym bag (for obvious funky reasons) and currently while traveling so that I can have a complete coverage that isn’t so strong during winter when everyone has their heater on cook everyone body temperatures.

If you’re more of an athletic guy or just afraid of the fragrance clerk at the mall then, get this- it perfect.

Head over to www.ballaformen.com to see all the local retailer you can pick yourself up a bottle.

“Junk Food Journals:” Entry 12

19 Nov

Cheers to all of you who haven’t started slacking in the gym just because it’s cold outside, you’re going to look great next summer! Don’t believe me, well here are three strong reasons to stay motivated in “Junk Food Journals:” Entry 12.

It’s so easy to put a workout off or skip a day however, when you step on that scale you’re going to regret it. This is the worst time of year for our guts so don’t wait till New Year’s to get it under control.

While you’re trying to kill time before Scandal airs or sitting around on the computer watching other people look great, get up off your flabby a** and tone it. You’re Welcome!

“Cut out a “time waster” and replace it with exercise.” -James Paylor

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I’m Evan Martin (IG: Datboie_79)  and I have always been athletic and played many sports in high school, including football and basketball. I’ve never had a weight issue. I just never liked being thin and skinny. In 1999 I started lifting weights in the gym to put on size. When I started to see great physical changes I then decided to make fitness a part of my everyday life. Health and fitness is my #1passion every day I strive to be a better version of myself both mentally and physically.

Workout Philosophy: My workout philosophy is to make training an everyday part of my life. It is just as important as making money, eating food, and taking showers. You cannot live without those three things and you cannot live without fitness. Fitness to me, is a lifestyle not a hobby.

Breakfast: Fruit, bananas/apples and some oatmeal. Also I would have a protein shake.

Lunch: Chicken breast sandwich with whole wheat bread and some protein bars.

Dinner: Tilapia, chicken, and brown rice and whole wheat bread with spinach.

Cheat Day: Chips, cookies,pizza.

Diet Trick: I believe you can eat whatever you want within portion reasonable sizes. Just burn it off by doing a workout after the bad food you ate.

Problem Area: It was my legs, now no real problem areas.

Key to Discipline: Stay consistent, stay focused and stay disciplined! Always make time for fitness by making a schedule for yourself to train/workout.

Workout Routine: The majority of my training is done at home. Everyday I strive to do different workouts. Some days will be calisthenics, some days it will be cardio, and some days it will be weights…always mixing things up, is the key to getting true results and fighting off plateaus/boredom.

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My name is James Paylor (IG: SHILOHHERITAGE). I enjoy shopping, spending time with my family, and working out. I try to keep a positive attitude and mindset.

Workout Philosophy:  Go hard and give your all but don’t over do it. Know your limit!

Breakfast: Because I’m thin, and I want to gain weight, I have grilled cheese with bacon and gator tots with water just about everyday.

Lunch: Anything with carbs.

Dinner: Repeat lunch.

Cheat day: Bluebell Oreo Cookies n Cream Ice cream.

Problem area: It’s very hard for me to gain weight in the top half of my torso just under my chest.

Key to Discipline: Don’t over think analyze or yell to the world about going to the gym because I find it puts too much pressure on me to keep it up … Cut out a “time waster” and replace it with exercise.

Workout Routine:
Mon: Legs , glutes, quads.
Tues: Shoulders and abs.
Wed: Cardio/abs.
Thurs: Back and biceps.
Fri: Chest and triceps.
Saturday & Sunday : Rest (maybe 30 mins of your choice of body part.)

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My name is Adriel (IG: AAADRIEL)and I am 28. I started taking my fitness seriously April 2013. I was 240 lbs, about a 43 inch waist and I just decided that’s not who I wanted to be or what I wanted to look like. It took me about 4 months of STRICT dieting and workouts to lose the weight and gain muscle over fat.  Currently I am trying different things out to gain some lean mass. I don’t know much about fitness lol. I just ask a lot of questions, follow a lot of people who inspire me and go hard in the gym and with the dieting when I can.

Workout Philosophy:  Workout until failure, work out the whole body (don’t skip legs it makes a difference in all your other workouts) ask lots of questions, and be consistent. Understand that everyone comes from different places and everyone won’t understand your struggle.  Some people are larger trying to get smaller and others are smaller trying to get larger. Talk to people that have been through your struggle.  If you decide to get a trainer find someone who is genuinely interested in fitness. Never pay someone for training  that hardly trains themselves. Never sign up for one of those services in which you get a different trainer every time you visit. Your trainer is your friend and your mentor. He/she knows when you bullshit and know when you are giving it your all.  They know your max and your minimum. They start to care about your results as much as you do. I recommend to workout with someone that is into men’s physique not just personal training. Trust me that makes 100% of the difference. All in all, you can try it without a trainer first! There are so many other resources.

Breakfast: Egg white & plain oatmeal.

Lunch: Chicken, vegetables and a yam or brown rice.

Dinner: Meat: Fish/chicken/99% lean ground turkey. Vegetables: Anything green. Carbs: Whole grain items or yam.

Cheat Day: Cheat day :-) We all deserve a little ice cream LOL. But we pay for it. When I dont cheat I see it. When I do I see that too.  Cheat meal is buffalo wings. When I am really on top of my diet the food doesn’t tempt me BUT I have a sweet tooth! THE SUGARS are the WORST! I try to not allow myself to get too hungry because that’s when the craving starts. Also, I never go to the grocery store hungry. Its a setup! Everything looks delicious.  When I do have a snack I make sure its not breakfast and not dinner. I also try to make sure its on a day in which I am drinking a lot of water and a higher intensity day like leg day or cardio and chest day. If I am going to a family event or BBQ, I try to eat something before I go. That way if I do eat, its not much and I’m not craving the peach cobbler or the apple pie lol.

Diet Trick: I think I struggled the most with diet when I didn’t know what I could and couldn’t eat. Walking in the grocery store and trying to figure out if some particular item was OK or if it wasn’t. I learned really fast to keep it simple. Don’t try to play the line of “ok” and “not ok”. It just confused me and stressed me out. KEEP IT SIMPLE, chicken, fish, 99% lean meat is good. Everything else is not.  If you’re trying to lose weight I personally recommend staying away from red meat.  I avoid processed meats (and foods), like chicken nuggets or Tyson chicken tenders, they are not ok. For carbs; only whole grain pastas, whole grain rice and baked yam. Use different seasoning for your meats to make it taste different.  Eat more meals but smaller portions. Healthy fats can be your friend. As you even out your portions and start to consistently eat 4 and 5 meals a day you will start to become hungry. That is a GOOD sign because that means your metabolism is increasing. Have a few almonds with your meal at the end. This keeps you from being hungry. There has been so many times that I waited to eat the almonds and I ate the whole bag LOL. That’s not good. If you eat them at the end of your meal they will help you before you get hungry. I try to keep my sugar and fat intakes lower. 100% juices and even fruits have lots of sugar and you do need sugars but just remain aware of how much your eating in the day. Drink lots of  water (lay off the sugar in coffee and drinks, read the back) . **Do not carb starve! it is bad for you, it decreases energy, it creates a starving feeling and your body starts to break down protein for energy instead of carbs, and that means the protein you are taking in is not being used to build muscle**

Problem Area: TIME. Time is an issue for me. Making time to eat the amount of meals and having time to make them. The best thing to do is cook for 2 and 3 days at a time. In the event you can’t, don’t go to your local fast food. Find grocery store get a rotisserie chicken and a bag of steam fresh veggies. If you need your carbs then you can get a yam or Uncle Ben’s whole grain 90 second rice.

Key to Discipline: Don’t depend on others to go with you. Take pictures so you can see where you’re coming from and where you’re headed. If you’re not headed in the right direction then you will be able to see that. If you’re progressing in one area over the other then, you will know. When you’re working out you wont notice your progress unless you have older pictures to reference. (Morning pictures are the best) Don’t be afraid to ask someone on Instagram or read on how someone  achieved their results and what else can you do to achieve the same. Follow fitness people. There are lots of tips and tricks and lots of inspiration online. Always remember the reason you started to workout!

Workout Routine: Right now I set days. Chest/triceps day, leg day, back/biceps day, and shoulder/calf day. I try to workout the complete muscle by choosing 5 or 6 exercises per muscle.  At about 4 sets and 10 reps of each exercise. For right now chest  day I do incline, decline and regular bench press. I also do dumbbell fly’s and usually pick something else. I have my routine and once it becomes too routine I do the same exercises in a different order. Same thing applies to all the other parts and days 5 different exercises 10 reps each.

Smooth as Chocolate.

18 Nov

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Who care’s about your waist when your face is even, smooth and radiant as the sun?! Everyone actually, but that besides the point.

I love skincare confection like a fat kid love a good box of assorted chocolates. However, during this time of year with the weather changing and noshavember upon us I have to really pay attention to my skin to keep my mug as tight and clean under the scruff and all the sweet breakout causing treats this holiday.

There once was a time when the only thing a man had in his skincare arsenal was a warm washcloth and a shaving kit he either stole from his dad or was bought by a woman in his life.

Men are as self conscious about their skin as women. We go through the same things as, dark circles, blemishes, scars, acne and breakouts, not mention are skin is oilier than women. On the bright side that why we age more gracefully… there, I said it!

Of all the route to presentable skin I’ve never tried makeup, for obvious reason but because I didn’t see how it would cure the problem rather than cover it up. However, makeup artist Chris McKinley express in his feature of “Taste Coach” this is a new trend with men and ‘complexion correction’ skincare.

This was a perfect opportunity to reach out to Michele Probst founder of Mënaji Skincare for The Confident Man to try out her line of dermatologist and chemists tested men’s skin treatment and corrective products.

Founded after her twenty years of experience in the fashion photography, television, film and video industries. Some of her clients include, Aaron Neville, Al Gore, Barack Obama, Bryan Batt, Katie Couric, Chris Matthews, Enrique Inglesias, Jay Leno, Kid Rock, Larry King, Neil Young, Stevie Nicks, Tim McGraw, Tom Brokaw and many more. Her specialty is making her celebrity male clients look youthful and natural without looking made-up.

After our awesome and informative phone conversation about our love of healthy skin she sent me a package of her most savored facial treats for me to devourer and share with my readers.

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First, what I love about the packaging when I received the product is that it comes in a repurposed cigar box to be a bit discrete and butch up the the fact I’ve just ordered makeup. After a week of wearing and testing each product I can break down and review each included in my package.

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Deep Cleansing Masque:($26 3.4oz/100ml) This was my favorite of them all. It reminded me a bit of Noxzema, it has a mentholated pore opening feeling that I could feel working while I applied and left it on for 15mins before my shower. It left my face very clean and very open. It get’s a deep cleanse without all the hard work. This can be used everyday for a mini facial.

Face & Body Scrub:($30 5.75oz/170ml) Now I’m very particular about trying new things to wash my body with being that I have already developed a body wash and moisterizer system that I’m not messing with. Therefore, I only use this as a facial scrub, it’s not abrasive, pleasantly scented and similar to my Nivea Men face scrub. It’s good for removing the deep cleanse masque for a broader wash.

911 Eye Gel & Lip Balm Agent: ($36 1.0oz/28g & $7.50 0.15oz/4.2g) The 911 Eye Gel is sent directly from sleep deprived Skinny-Jesus himself, I absolutley love it. Simply dab it under your eye, let it air dry and last night is just that! It contains a combination of chamomile, aloe and wheat protein. All hypoallergenic and oil-free!For quick and better results store it in your refrigerator for an ICY application. The lip balm isn’t anything special but a good reminder to protect your lips as you do your skin especially this winter.

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HDPV Anti-Shine Powder: ($35 10g powder) When I initally open the package I was a bit apprehensive at the tone choices being a Black male with a darker complextion. I was sent Tan, Bronze and Dark! My suspicion was right, none of the color worked for my complexion. You guys should have seen my face the first day I tried the product, I was casket ready. However, being the resourceful skinny savant I am I watched a few youtube tutorials and noticed that the colors that most women use aren’t their natural skin color either. What I did was use each tone in a different area of my face to even out, highlight and match my complexion.

I did the Dark on my jaws and temples, the Tan under my eyes and the Bronze in my T-zone and cheekbones then use the brush to blend. What I realized in my application is that press powder isn’t for fully covering your face but to clean it up, minimize shine and directly cover up blemishes and bruises. Also, it’s better used for pics and not everyday use because after a while I experienced a burning sensation as it sank into my pores (yet it wasn’t heavy apart from the burning I barely noticed it on) and it started to settle under my eye giving me the appearance of crow’s feet and I’m only 29!

Overall, I love the idea of Mënaji products, they a very cost effective, made is the U.S.A. and pro men. As well as, with everyone an Instagram model these days they are the perfect filter for the perfect selfie. The only problem I had was skin matching with the powder. Other than on a scale of 1-10 I give Mënaji products a 7 1/2 because they don’t treat acne or razor bumps but does a good job at maintaining a fresh look.

Oh yeah, another thing to try is the Aftershave Hydrator ($34 4 oz/118ml) it double as a full face moisterizer. It has the consistency of a light lotion but last like an oil.

Sleep till Skinny.

17 Nov

Sleep till Skinny

You’re in the gym so much you receive mail there, your diet at this point only consist of air and every extra dime is spent on running sneakers, dri-fit and whatever gadget that claims to burn more calories yet you’re still the same size you were last month. Well then, you’re still fat because you sleep horrible.

Studies have shown that lack of sleep is linked to obesity, low productivity and poor mood. All these contribute to that pudge around your slowly proteuding abs and puffy cheeks. Getting sleep is import to a healthy fit thin lifestyle. I know it’s practically impossible to get eight hours of sleep with all that we have going on and trying to achieve. However, how much time at night are you really spending getting to your dreams than watching t.v. and endlessly scrolling social media?

No matter how hard you go at the weights & cardio or pre-cook and plan your meals for the week if your body isn’t getting the appropriate about of rest your memory sucks, you stay bloated and your metabolism slows.

Sleep should be at the top of your diet tricks and apart of workout routine. Sleep is an important factor in your recuperating period after a long strenuous day or workout.

I experience all these annoying things when I trying to get my weight and body to peak display. When I got a handle on my sleep schedule I noticed my love-handles everoprating.

Here a few “getting to sleep tips,” how to not oversleep and having enough energy to take on the day dropping that excess fat.

Benefits: When getting to sleep on time you can regulate your blood glucose better, you are more creative and eager to get everything on your to-do list accomplished. The adequate amount of rest is perfect for your muscle and digestive system to repair and empty itself so that you can begin the day with a fresh start and not the same crap in your system from previous days.

Habits: Just as you schedule everything else in your life do the same with your sleep. By doing this you’ll create a habit that even when you’re not thinking about it your natural reaction will be to always follow suit. For example, I get in the bed at 10:30 p.m. no matter what every weeknight whether I’m sleepy or not. I try to have all my work done by then or organized enough that I can resume it the next day. By getting to bed at the same time every night I’m in the right place to doze off rather than on the sofa or staying up late aimlessly doing things that will only wind the clock down. Give yourself a deadline to have dinner done, face washed and work/school looks pulled so you can head to your room. Also, getting to bed early keeps you from late night snacking.

Goodbye Gadgets: For Lent this year I put my phone, tablet and laptop in the living-room before bed and I’m quite sure it contributed to getting to my 168lbs weight goal. I wasn’t answering emails, responding to rather boring texts nor was I up refreshing my screen looking at other fatties posts their insomnia angst. Also, if you use your phone for an alarm, you are sure to get up on time if you have to get out of bed to go to another room to dismiss it. Relax your brain and eyes. If you must have some sort of electronic invest in an Android Wear or Jawbone, these life-trackers help you keep track of your sleep progress.

Squat Schedule: Change your workouts to morning instead of night. Working out in the morning give you more energy, lowers your blood pressure and makes you more sleepy at night. Exercising before bed only induce endorphins giving you that unwanted need to find other random things to do in the middle of the night.

Liquids: I know many of you need your liquid energy to function but no caffeine after noon so it will wear off by 7 p.m. and switch to green tea in the a.m. instead of coffee it’s speed your metabolism, boost energy and cleanse you. This goes without saying but drink your water people. Stay hydrated and you’ll never worry about midnight cravings. Reserve sugar (if you must) in the morning to give you the rest of the day to work it off and not keep you up or sit around your waist. Any sleepytime tea or wine is the perfect nightcap to take the edge off for an early slumber.

Sanctuary Investment: This Christmas forgo the smart television in your bedroom and buy a new mattress, pillows and sheets that are comfortable, plush and muted in color. I know I pass out every time I’m at a hotel with their huge memory foam mattress, down pillows and 400 double-ply or 800 single-ply thread count sheets as they engulf my body. For obvious reasons I turned my bedroom into my own little hotel. Now I can’t wait to get into bed, sometimes it’s hard to get me out of it.

Motivation: As hard as it is to go to bed on time it’s just as hard to wake up. Therefore it’s always best to have a game plan the night before to give you all the thinspiration to get to bed early and want to get out of it even in this cold weather when your bed is at its most toasty comfort. Plan a large breakfast because everyone except me loves thinking about food, this will get you excited about getting to bed and you’d have to get up in enough time to get it prepared, eaten and cleaned before work. Organize your day in order to stay busy wearing you out for the new bed you’ve just copped. Clean your home, nothing worse than trying to find peace of mind in a chaotic mess of clutter.

Soothing Sounds: Now that you’ve moved your television and laptop out the room and you happen to be one of those constant thinkers who can’t shut off their mind at night. Find a Pandora station of instrumentals (yoga, classical or jazz), create a playlist of songs you don’t know the words to or download a sound app to program aquatic, nature or city sounds that will drown out your thoughts and make you drowsy.

Weekend & Sex: Don’t stop your sleep schedule just because it’s a weekend as well as, don’t wait till after midnight for a release, do it as soon as nightfall to release those biochemicals that make you tired.

Stay consistent and catch some z’s!

Add This Your Ab Workout.

13 Nov

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They say abs are made in the kitchen and maintained in the gym however, between pizza Monday’s at the gym and the half off coupons hanging on my fridge door obviously I have the wrong ingredients.

Although… what if I told you that you’re sugar & carb cutting and crunch counting can get some extra definition while in your bathroom?

If your midsection is anything like mine no matter how many doughnuts, dairy landet treats I skip or ab machines I live on my abs are only visible when I’m dehydrated or make a limited of time appearance after the 500 crunch session for about one gym selfie. This is the most un-motivating thing for someone who spends their mornings and nights trying to get their stomach as tight as possible.

Even though it’s cooler outdoors and eating season is two weeks aways this is the most important time of year to stay ready for next summer. Which means collecting all the proper ingredients for abs of steel before hibernation.

A few weeks ago I reached out to grooming company Billy Jealousy.

Founded in 2004 by Pat Parsi and Danielle Rouso, Billy Jealousy has become an icon in the grooming industry with their line of ‘Cosmeceutical’ products that has been scientifically designed to help cleanse and promote the health, texture and tone of our skin. Winning major magazine awards from such prestigious publications as Men’s Health and Esquire. Today Billy Jealousy products are sold and used throughout the world, from Singapore to Auckland, NY to LA, London to Johannesburg And PETA approved.

I wanted to try Billy Jealousy’s SIX-PACK slimming solution (8 oz / 236 ml $44) to see if it would help get me closer to my desired waistline. “Six-Pack” a powerful restorative cream that helps your lymphatic system detoxify your body and remove fat, while natural caffeines enhance lipolysis (the breakdown of fat).

For starters I applied the slimming solution to my abs twice a day after my shower along with continuing my daily crunches and watching my diet. After about three weeks of using the product I must admit is help a bit. Now this isn’t for any delusional person that thinks it will give you abs overnight or quit your workout regime and just apply the cream.

This solution is for people that want a little more definition. What I did while starting out with the product is a 24 hours water and green tea cleanse to get the best results from the product. Because, while the main ingredients of KOLA NUT, GUARANA, BLADDERWRACK, SEA KELP: stimulants, firm and tone appearance of skin and METHYLSILANOL CARBOXYMETHYL THEOPHYLLINE: clinically proven lipolytic (fat-burning) effects they all do it from the outside and most times it’s best to start with the inside.

I want to be clear, I didn’t see drastic change but I did have way less bloating than usual and the firmness after a workout didn’t go away.

I love when science and health come together to effectively make someone feel better about themselves. As stated on the label it does tone, tightens and chicles your midsection just don’t expect it to create something out of nothing.

Other things I like about Six-Pack was the pleasant scent, light lotion like consistency and no greasy residue to ruin my shirts. This product would be prefect for those two week before spring break when going shirtless is crucial to your entire workout progress.

This isn’t a miracle lotion but merely an aid in creating abs that look like a pack of Hawaiian bread and not feel like it.

À la carte

11 Nov

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We are only truly alone when were are dead. As morbid as it sounds this for me and hopefully for you reading this is reassurance as to not look at your current solitary situation so bad. With all the wonders of social media it may seems like everyone is out having the time of their lives while you’re just sitting home wishing you had friends like them, the money and the cool places around town to explore and capture. Even when we are going through personal struggles, because we may not have someone to take the burden away or nothing more than hear us vent we aren’t as alone as it seems.

It’s all about exhausting your resources and asking yourself “are you putting out what you want to receive.” The only way to have support is to create it, be more open, say hello and definitely get over yourself!

It wasn’t until my late twenties that I realize people are going through the same thing as I am (family, school, relationships and financially) but the only way I knew that was to spark conversations and cultivate relationships. This not only help me harvest life long relationships but make sense of my struggles and sometimes find resolutions.

Stop being the party pooper or the “strong one” and get active. Show the world who you are even if it means going at it alone because I’m quite sure you’ll finish with a group. Don’t be afraid to tell people how you feel, ask if you can tag along or simply put yourself out there. Use social media to your advantage, don’t just scroll; comment and like as well as, share your thoughts and opinions. Rekindle those friendships that only need a hello to ignite.

To be alone is a choice one makes themselves. I enjoy meeting new people and exploring new links. Get out the house, off your computer and into some adventure. You don’t have to be doing something over the top, it could be as simple a picking up the phone to call a friend back or check up on a family members and when you plan those vain visits you make with people you run into– follow through.

Even in the graveyard you’re buried next to someone.

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Suit: Stafford Tailored Culture JCP $250
Leather Shirt: Iridium 77 (Borrowed from BF)
Shoes: Asos.com $99.99
Accessories: (cuff Target, gold bracelet and cuff MK)

Find Your Lite.

5 Nov

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It’s time to put your angst on a diet! Or just get it liposucked out your life all together.

Whatever is it that gives you energy, focus or momentum keep that and not bog yourself down with clouded judgments and irrational choices made in desperation or being unprepared.

You know the story, you set a goal (lose 10 pounds, save 1000 dollars or start that project) get everything in order to make it happen, start seeing some progress and something unexpected is thrown in your life (breakup, high bill or people helping don’t come through) then all of the sudden you feel heavy, dark and just want to give up. Only weeks later now you’re in a rut and upset with yourself because you still haven’t accomplished what you set out to do.

That is me some of the time, I set out to do so much at the start of every month, I’ll have a list of 10 things to get said goals accomplished and if I complete all but one I feel like the most sluggish disappointing fatso ever.

I understand life happens and you can’t prepare for the unexpected but you can have a plan to make your way through the darkness and lighten your load. It’s all about finding your drive and using it to keep you pushing towards your goals. Constantly we are told that we should be setting goals and mapping out our life but never how we are to stay on course.

I’m a firm believer of what you don’t get done today just put it on the list for tomorrow. However, that’s easier said than done when you tried, looking for help and can’t seem to win no matter how much you organize. This is where finding your “lite” is all about it. What is your escape?

In having a goal it should be a reason to why you want to achieve that goal. For some it’s their kids, others their closets and most their future, but for right now what tangible aids could you name that help you get through tough times to remain strong willed to travel with a heavy load? What will help you see through the darkness. It could be a book, televisions show a collection of pictures, a childhood memory or someone you look up to all to help your remember why it is you embarked on this trail that could be used as some sort of flashlight or wheelbarrow to propel you on your journey to success.

For me it documentmenting everything; my thinspiration board, dry erase board and cellular calendar. I know these things are basic and not the common “my mom” or “my family” motivators. But what these things represent is that feeling I get when I’m checking things off my dry erase board, showing up ready to work at every schedule calendar appointment and having the excitement and inspiration to create/buy/workout awesome things pasted together on my thinspiration board. Each of these tools take me to a light and cheery space giving me the energy I need to want to continue to victory.

Lists, boards and having a tangible motivator is all about accountability. We may not have control over the outcome but we have a responsibility to ourselves to deal with it. No matter what is thrown at us or how awful it makes me/you feel abandoning our goal because of it still leave all the blame on you.

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When life shuts down a tunnel in your road to greatness you don’t just give in, you maintain and find a new route. Sometimes when I get bad news in the middle of the day I just want to cancel everything and just go home, go to sleep until I feel better but that doesn’t get any of my goals achieved nor help me deal with the new problem.

We have to have an escape plan from those dark times, it could be setting a daily to-do list, have a mantra posted on everything or simply taking a few minutes to decompress and escape mentally to a private place that will help you get back to work.

Not everything will work your way yet you still can have everything you want. Finding your lite is about being noticed, clear minded and hopeful. Be more optimistic, use every mistake and success to learn from to store and use for the future.

Find what makes you happy, understand why is it that you want a specific accomplishment and what will it mean if you don’t get it. These three rationales will help you strengthen yourself against the dark side of life.

So as some on you are in the middle of your squat or ab challenges and don’t feel like you have the time or aren’t looking like you hoped ask yourself is this what you really want and and what else could you be doing not to give up and get better results.

That’s another things, is the things you say you want really what you want? Are you just making goals to compete with someone or validate yourself for another shortcoming or failed attempt at what it is you truly desire. Maybe that is why you can’t ever stay motivated because you’re not invested. When you’re invested nothing can get in your way.

The moral of the store; stay ready so you don’t have to get ready. Life is a scary dark tunneled with carb load distraction at every stop. Stay strong and head for the light. Skinny is on the other side.

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